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 Posted: Sun Aug 10th, 2014 07:09 pm
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First off I'm going to state the I've just now started having an urge to watch wrestling again, and as you will read you will understand why

when the year started my wife and I were having problems. Problems I was too stubborn to think we could handle on our own and was too proud to admit we should seek out counseling. As the problems got worse she started gravitating to a friend of ours. I had warned her about having Emotional Friend and that she was shutting me out but she didn't believe my words.

February 8th I had a guys night at my house. The "Friend" was there that night and left early and when he left he made a point to state that he "loves me like a brother". Little did I know that the knife he had in my back at the time.

The next three days my wife fought with me and told me I deserved better. It was on February 11th she told me she was in love with him. I promptly told her to leave our house. It was the beginning of the worst period of my life.

that week was hell. My wife had our daughter with her at her step dads, and I was alone with my thoughts and a few very trusted friends keeping me together and not letting me get the best of myself and fall apart. we only talked once a day and the phone calls would vary from strained to loving with no sense of stability.

February 15th is when she told me she cheated on me with him on February 8th. I wish I could say I was devastated, but I wasn't. With all the pain and agony I had gone through that week I think I was expecting that. I handled it far better than anyone should've and I'm not saying that to brag. I just don't know how to explain how I handled it.

Then came Monday the 17th. We had a huge blow up on the phone. So bad that when I got off the phone I yelled at God for an hour. I fell asleep and woke up with my entire left side numb...I was rushed to the ER, and diagnosed with a stress induced stroke like event. That night my body gave out on me from the stress...I'm 29 (going on 30) and I had to accept the fact that my body couldn't handle the stress I was under. The next day I was put on Anti-Depressants that lead to another problem I would have this year as well but we will get to that in a bit.

She finally came home on February 22nd and the next week we started counseling, with our first counselor. I say first, because his methods of picking sides between us from week to week only made our issues worse not better. So from late February to Mid April we were struggling to get through this. She was still talking to him every night on the phone. Then we blocked his number, and we started improving.

I confronted him in late April. our current counselor said I shouldn't that I will not understand why I shouldn't but if I did I would. We all work together in the same office building. Him and I bonded over wrestling, he became such a good friend that we would help him out if he needed it. be it food, money, and etc. Over the course of our sessions more and more came out and he was essentially using the state our marriage was in to groom my wife to leave me for him, because as he put it "he was jealous of what I had in life." There is a part of me that wants to vent my feelings on him, but I know that does me no good.

sorry for the side track. I confronted him outside of our building. he refused to look at me...instead only looking down at his feet or away from me in general, and that was when I knew what our counselor was getting at. I wasn't going to walk away from this feeling better about myself, or even feeling like I proved a point. At that moment I allowed myself to be on a level that I was lowering myself too. Funny thing is...that night or i should say early that morning he called my wife from a new number. she told me and we had a huge fight. we blocked that number and we decided that next time he calls we're either pressing charges for harassment or myself, her brother, and her dad were paying him a visit (I know it sounds really bad). However, after that is when we really started making strides in the recovery department. She started to forgive herself (a process she is still going through), and we started to rebuild on the foundation of our relationship.

By May our counselor felt so confident in us and our progress that he decided instead of every other week we see him once a month. That was a big sign to us that we are on the right path again.

Then in June I was diagnosed with an inflamed prostate, something not very common in a guy my age. It was just another thing thrown on to me this year, and it was then that I finally had to admit to her the wear and tear this year had put on me emotionally. I'd been trying very hard to be strong yet open for her and it hit me after my appointment that when I got into the car I just started to break down. That was when she took my hand and comforted me for the first time in a long time and it showed me again how far we had come.

Last month we did a family staycation and it was a great time for us not just to bond as husband and wife but as a mother and father. That week away from work and from stress gave us insight into each other that was beneficial to our rebuild.

Enter yesterday...We celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary. I didn't think 7 months ago we'd be here. I didn't think we'd be emotionally and mentally connected as we are today. Sure there are aspects we are struggling in, but they will come with time...because sometimes the best things are worth waiting for...plus there is a lot of emotions that come with some of these things. For all the heartache, all the fear we lived with, we are coming out of a trying time stronger. I'm coming out of this trying time better. I can look at my actions and see the things I did to play a role in what happened. Never once did I take the victim route, instead I fought on and stood tall.

In an odd way this horrible, destructive situation at the end of the day might actually be a blessing in disguise. Because it forced us to take a look at ourselves and our relationship, and if neither of us wanted to be here we'd be divorced by now. It made me go through a crapstorm health wise and emotionally and it made me find the person I am deep down inside. I'm a better man for it, not just a better husband, but father, brother, son, and friend.

Please don't anyone read this and feel sorry for me. I wanted to share this with you because, We all go through hard times, and if anyone else is going through something. You're never the only one and there is always going to be someone there with an ear and a heart to listen and be there for you when you need it. never forget that...

I also know there might be some people who will be negative and will say negative things, I understood that risk when I decided to share this with all of you. Furthermore this is the first time I'm sharing this online. there are people on there who I am friends with on social media (meanie for example), who have no clue because I never posted about it. I played this very close to the heart and only a few very close friends know the truth, but they are also the ones who were cheerleading us to fix our marriage.

With all of that said, I know many of the people on here are caring and understanding people, and I just wanted to share my story with you guys to get it off my chest in a safe environment.

Thank You, you all aren't just the best wrestling fans out there, you are also some of the best people out there.


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 Posted: Sun Aug 10th, 2014 09:17 pm
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Wow, that's some drama.
I guess I give him credit for venting if it makes him feel better.  You have to take care of your own house though and never let shit get that far out of control.



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I don't understand people who need to post all of this private bullshit anywhere, much less on a wrestling site.  I mean shit happens, it's not the most unusual story out there, but doesn't he have any friends or family to vent to?  What does he expect complete strangers to say after reading all that.  "Glad things are going better, hang in there man."  OK, so what did that accomplish?  If it helps him in some way then I guess good for him, but thinking WC is a "safe environment" is delusional and indicative of the types of bad decisions that probably led to his marital problems in the first place.



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srossi wrote: I don't understand people who need to post all of this private bullshit anywhere, much less on a wrestling site.  I mean shit happens, it's not the most unusual story out there, but doesn't he have any friends or family to vent to?  What does he expect complete strangers to say after reading all that.  "Glad things are going better, hang in there man."  OK, so what did that accomplish?  If it helps him in some way then I guess good for him, but thinking WC is a "safe environment" is delusional and indicative of the types of bad decisions that probably led to his marital problems in the first place.

You know the OP IS Raditch, right? 80% of his posts here are of the "private bullshit" variety.



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dogfacedgremlin34 wrote: srossi wrote: I don't understand people who need to post all of this private bullshit anywhere, much less on a wrestling site.  I mean shit happens, it's not the most unusual story out there, but doesn't he have any friends or family to vent to?  What does he expect complete strangers to say after reading all that.  "Glad things are going better, hang in there man."  OK, so what did that accomplish?  If it helps him in some way then I guess good for him, but thinking WC is a "safe environment" is delusional and indicative of the types of bad decisions that probably led to his marital problems in the first place.

You know the OP IS Raditch, right? 80% of his posts here are of the "private bullshit" variety.

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dogfacedgremlin34 wrote: srossi wrote: I don't understand people who need to post all of this private bullshit anywhere, much less on a wrestling site.  I mean shit happens, it's not the most unusual story out there, but doesn't he have any friends or family to vent to?  What does he expect complete strangers to say after reading all that.  "Glad things are going better, hang in there man."  OK, so what did that accomplish?  If it helps him in some way then I guess good for him, but thinking WC is a "safe environment" is delusional and indicative of the types of bad decisions that probably led to his marital problems in the first place.

You know the OP IS Raditch, right? 80% of his posts here are of the "private bullshit" variety.


Well I must admit I was a bit disappointed to see this was a WC re-post instead of some more great co-worker drama. 



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Its good for Jason that the cool kids aren't allowed to post on WC anymore.



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srossi wrote: dogfacedgremlin34 wrote: srossi wrote: I don't understand people who need to post all of this private bullshit anywhere, much less on a wrestling site.  I mean shit happens, it's not the most unusual story out there, but doesn't he have any friends or family to vent to?  What does he expect complete strangers to say after reading all that.  "Glad things are going better, hang in there man."  OK, so what did that accomplish?  If it helps him in some way then I guess good for him, but thinking WC is a "safe environment" is delusional and indicative of the types of bad decisions that probably led to his marital problems in the first place.

You know the OP IS Raditch, right? 80% of his posts here are of the "private bullshit" variety.


Well I must admit I was a bit disappointed to see this was a WC re-post instead of some more great co-worker drama.

Eh, this poster is a newbie when posting family stuff. He only shit on 1 coworker, and didn't shit on his in laws, siblings or parents.

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srossi wrote: I don't understand people who need to post all of this private bullshit anywhere, much less on a wrestling site.  I mean shit happens, it's not the most unusual story out there, but doesn't he have any friends or family to vent to?  What does he expect complete strangers to say after reading all that.  "Glad things are going better, hang in there man."  OK, so what did that accomplish?  If it helps him in some way then I guess good for him, but thinking WC is a "safe environment" is delusional and indicative of the types of bad decisions that probably led to his marital problems in the first place.
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